Set Goals & Take Action

Hello my beauties.

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. This is not about comparing yourself to others, thinking that you are better or worse than them; self love is about accepting, trusting and taking care of yourself.

As promised on my last post, How To Be More Confident, today I will be touching on the first tip I gave you, Set Goals & Take Action.

I used to be the type of person who would always come up with ideas of things to do, but never get into action. Don’t get me wrong, I am a big planner. I would always have a very detailed plan of what I was going to do, but for what? I would follow it for a few days and then drop it completely. I wasted tons of energy on planning. >.<

Throughout the years, as I continued to work on myself, I realized how going through with the plan can help with your confidence. Feeling like you have accomplished something, whether you got the results you wanted or not, brings your mood up. Why? Well, because you did it. You set your mind to it and you did it. Be dang proud of it. 

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The most recent thing I recall is when I first decided to start blogging. It’s a bit funny actually, my sisters were starting their own, but I wanted no part of it so I chose to ignore everything they would say about it. Although that’s completely a “little sister” thing to do, ignore your big sisters, the real reason was because I never saw myself as someone that could write well. English is not my first language, therefore I felt a bit self conscious about it and always made that my excuse. I felt like people wouldn’t understand what I had to say. But one day I got tired of making up excuses, I set a goal, made a plan, and created my website and blog. Now here I am, and although I am not the best at writing, I love sharing these tips with you, and thank God I have received nothing but great feedback. Let me tell you, it feels great knowing that I actually went through with it and can now impact others with what I share.

Ok. So, how does this actually help? It is actually proven that when you write your goals down or when you constantly see a picture of what you want, you are more likely to remember it and work towards it. I personally started writing down my goals, keeping a calendar, and creating vision boards so that I can have all of my goals and plans in order. Here is the actual Planner I have been using for the past few years. It is very convenient for everything, I absolutely love it!

Few tips on setting goals and getting to work:

  1. Be as clear as possible, with dates and everything. Ex. I will have over 100 subscribers by the end of this year. 😉 **HINT HINT** This will keep you motivated and will push you to actually get to work, it will keep yourself accountable. The more detailed you are about this vision, the more confident you’ll feel about it.
  2. Set small goals as well as big ones. The big goals will paint the bigger picture, but can also overwhelm you. Breaking it down into smaller goals will make sure that you don’t get discouraged. The more small goals you achieve, the better you’ll feel. These will add up to a big accomplishment and you’ll be getting closer and closer to what you want.
  3. You also have to visualize yourself at your goal. How would you feel if you already had it? What will your life look like? How will it change? Feel as if you have already attained it, and think about it constantly. Picturing yourself at the finish line will lead you to a greater feeling of accomplishment and will prepare you for success.
  4. Now, don’t just write them down and think about how great you will feel once you have it; if you do, you’ll be making the same mistake I made. You have to get to work. How else will you actually get it?? Take out your to-do list and get to work. Do the biggest or hardest tasks early in the morning to get them out of the way. Right away you’ll feel better about yourself. Sitting at home and thinking about it will only make you feel worse.
  5. Keep your focus on the goal and be present. Take it serious but relax at the same time. You don’t want it to feel as something that you HAVE to do, but something that you WANT to do because you know what will come from it. With a lighter state of mind it will become a lot easier to work on things. Don’t force it.

Challenge yourself when you are setting these goals. Live your life with purpose. There’s not one time I can remember where I didn’t feel good after accomplishing a goal. If you continue setting goals and achieving them, you will start to develop a respect for yourself that nobody else can give you.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Dale Carnegie

Ok. I want to do a little exercise with you now. In the comment section I want you to share these 3 things with me:

  1. One small goal you have. Be as detailed as you’d like. I will have over 100 subscribers by the end of this year. 
  2. How will you feel once you achieve it? and why? I will feel humbly proud (if that makes sense) of myself for inspiring others and knowing they relate to my story.
  3. What you will do to achieve it. I will continue to share my tips, hoping that more and more people continue to connect and get inspired.

Now you GO!

Until next time my cuties!

Happy

By the way, don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

How to become more Confident.

Having low self-esteem and self-confidence makes it impossible to be yourself. I remember a few years back how one of my main wishes was to gain my confidence back because I was losing sense of who I was.

As I mentioned on my first post WHO AM I, I shared how not long ago I went through a rough break up that left me in a dark place. This relationship was all I cared about, I invested all of my energy into it and forgot who I was in the process. So the moment it ended I was completely lost. I felt like I didn’t know what I liked anymore, I had no purpose, I lost tons of friends because of it, I distanced myself from family, I had no desire to do anything, I was living day by day not knowing what I wanted from life.

Basically, I was in desperate need of gaining my confidence back. But how? I had no clue what to do. Some people may say, “Well, just be confident in yourself.” Yeah…. that’s easier said than done. There is no magical switch you can turn your confidence ON and OFF with. So that advice was not very helpful. At all.

At this point, I was starting a nutrition program with my sisters because I had gained a few pounds due to everything that I was going through. I am an extreme stress eater as you may have read on AVOID CRAVINGS. I was able to drop the pounds I needed to lose, and at the moment I felt like this helped me gain some confidence back, and although it did, it wasn’t what completely did it for me.

I remember I then went to this one event for the company I was doing the program with, and they spoke about something called Personal Development. This term was like a different language to me. Personal Development is positive things that you do/listen to/read/write/say on a daily basis that help you improve yourself. PD helps enhance the quality of your life. Now, I had listened to motivational videos before, but I never saw it as something to do on a daily basis to improve myself.

So, because I am a good student, and like I said I was in desperate need, I started doing my daily PD. Because if you don’t believe in yourself, then how can others believe in you? I listened to this book called The Secret and many others. Well, while reading these books, listening to the videos, I learned about different things that I can do to get my confidence back.

I will share briefly on here what these tips are, however, throughout the next few weeks, I want to go into more detail on each. Follow my blog so that you get the notification when I post about each tip. I will be concentrating on one tip per post, to help you really understand each one a bit more. I really hope you find something useful from this blog that helps you improve and maintain your own level of confidence.

I have also created a 30 Day Confidence Challenge that you could JOIN. It is completely FREE. Just contact me for more details.

Here they are:

  1. Set goals and Take action. Something I used to do all the time was come up with an idea or plan, but never do it. I would always over think it instead of acting on it. But actually getting it done helps you have that feeling of accomplishment and it boosts your confidence, even if it’s by a little bit.
  2. Face your fears. The way to develop confidence into something is by getting out of your comfort zone, facing your fears and doing it. Pushing through those self-limiting beliefs you have had since little. Doing things that scare you is where you’ll be able to build your confidence.
  3. Realize that not everything has to be perfect. Fear of failure can hold you back from doing what you want. You have to learn how to not let it be something that breaks you down, instead something you can grow from. This is important for the growth of your self-confidence and overall as a human being. 
  4. Get to know who you are. To build your confidence up, you have to get to know yourself better. When you know more about yourself and the things that you want out of life, you will have more confidence in what you do. Find your Me Time, whether that is reading a book, dancing to your favorite song, a long bath, working out, write. Find what you like to do, and do it for at least 30mins – an hour. Doing this will help you disconnect from the world for a few minutes, and will help you refocus and boost your mood.
  5. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Bringing yourself around people with a positive attitude and mindset will improve both your self-confidence and self-worth.
  6. Talk to yourself. Yes, I know. Fabely, are you crazy? Maybe a little, but this really does work. They are called Daily Affirmations. On a daily basis, stand in front of the mirror and say positive things to yourself. You may not believe it, but your body listens to what you say to it. Be kind to yourself.
  7. Change your mindset. Self confidence is a mindset that takes effort to maintain. It’s something that you need to master in order to change for the better. Believe in yourself in order to do it. Act the part.
  8. Crack a smile. Last but not least, smile. At everyone you see, at yourself. If there is one instant way to boost your confidence, it is by smiling.

This will of course take time. It may be an ongoing thing for your life. But get started now. Like I said, taking action is one of the things that will help you.

So I hope that you follow my blog and stick around each week to learn more about them, that you JOIN MY CHALLENGE, and actually start putting them into practice in your life. I will go into detail about each one, so that you implement one each week and see how it can help you improve yourself. Look at it as a weekly to do.

As this quote says, “When eating an elephant take one bite at a time.” If you have patience and perseverance, you are only steps away from a more confident you.

I will be doing this with you too. Let your girls know about this post. Let’s continue to build ourselves up, empower each other and become the beautiful Invincible Butterflies that we are.

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Until next time my cuties!

Fabely

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Don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking