Here are some things we HAVE to leave behind.

So as January comes to an end, I wanted to quickly go over a few things that we should leave behind. These are things that should have been left back in 2017, but if you haven’t yet, DO IT NOW, so that you can finally start improving again.

These are things that you should leave behind so that you can focus your energy on being great, on being amazing, being the best version of yourself and having an amazing 2018.

  • Worrying about unnecessary things. There’s no telling on the amount of time we have all wasted on worrying about something ridiculous.
  • Thinking that self care is selfish. If anything, this is NECESSARY. You need to care for yourself if you want to care for others.
  • Doubts. What’s in the past is in the past. You are only in the NOW. You can’t change the past. It will only stop you from paying attention to opportunities that could be right in front of you.
  • Restrictive diets. Make it a healthy balanced lifestyle, not something where you have to restrict yourself from everything.
  • Being proud of being busy. Ok, this one is a bit odd. But nowadays everyone brags about being busy, but the human mind and body can’t handle that kind of stress well. You don’t want to reach a total burnout. Take some time to recharge.
  • Unrealistic expectations. There is not one person that has a perfect life. Stop comparing yourself to an illusion. If you strive for perfection it will stop you from seeing how good what you have is. Happiness comes from appreciating what you already have.
  • Social Media. You may be thinking, “how is she saying this when one of her main jobs is social media”. I don’t mean completely people. But at least sometimes. Social media is amazing and it offers a great opportunity if you know how to take it, but if you spend too much time on it, it can mess with your head.

What do you want to leave behind?

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What is your worth?

Sooooo, the other day I was listening to a Podcast where the main topic called my attention, so obviously I am going to share with you guys. It spoke about how we determine our self-worth based on other people’s bodies or lives.

I’m not sure how many times I have mentioned that the power of our thinking has a lot to do with the way we live our lives, because life is lived from the inside out. We create our own self-worth based on how we see and speak to ourselves.

Self reflection.jpgMost of the time we measure our worth based on other people’s looks or achievements. There are tons of fitness models out there, with different body types, workout plans and meal plans. But something we need to realize is that most of these people have gone through a specific process, customized to their goal and body, to get to where they are. Some of these people train specifically for this photo shoot that we see on Instagram. There’s an extensive process that they have to go through to get to this level. 

I mentioned on my last post, Be The Best Version of Yourself, how I used to look up to other fitness models as my Body Goal, but I have realized that you have to set achievable goals based on your current status. Yes! Definitely look up to those women as a motivation, but never as your goal. Am I making sense? Set realistic goals while still having a bigger picture in mind.

There is a lot of work that goes behind most of those pictures we see. We tend to buy into this lie because this has become something that we see on a daily basis, which makes us start thinking, “Wow, look how perfect their body is, how happy they must be”, etc. When in reality, these people don’t look like that ALL the time. Again, you have to do a lot to get there, and it also takes a lot to maintain it.

It’s not something that is impossible to achieve, but understand that everyone has their own process, their own journey.

When we look at those people we usually think that they must be super popular, that they deserve more things than we do, we give them more value than we give ourselves. We then think, “wow she doesn’t have cellulite like me, she doesn’t have love handles”. Listen, you don’t know if those pictures are photoshopped, which they probably are. Whatever you’re thinking when you see these people, you need to stop it.Love yourself. Worth Spectrum

For all we know, these people go through dehydration and extreme dieting to get there. Is that really what you want? The goal should always be to be healthy while achieving your goal, not to kill yourself for just a few extra pounds.

The way you look can’t change what your worth is. You should never allow it to. You can’t capture true beauty in just one picture anyways, so stop feeling bad about yourself. They probably took thousands of pictures to get that one perfect one, lol I speak from experience.

You see on someone’s Instagram what they want you to see.

Limit the amount of time you spend looking through social media. Stop comparing yourself. Again, use them as a motivation but always having yourself as your role model, becoming your best self. Concentrate on your own journey, your progress, the things that you are overcoming and the person you are now becoming.

Dont Doubt your worthYour value lies in being who you are. We are each unique, you can’t deny the fact that you were created with a purpose. You were created to be who you are and what you are.

So stop trying to be like those other people. You just have to love yourself and you are the one who determines your worth. Stop thinking that you have to look a certain way to be happy, that you need a specific job to be successful or respected.

What stays in your life is what you tolerate and what you celebrate. Meaning, if you celebrate you, and your body, versus hating it and comparing it to others, then that’s what you’ll continue to get.

What do you celebrate about yourself? Even if it’s the smallest thing. If you can’t find one thing, then you need to make major changes. Make a list if you need to.

Start appreciating and celebrating your body for how it is, what it does for you.

Don’t tolerate any negative thinking or things into your life. The more you tolerate these things, the more they will be in your life.

Confidence, self-worth, self-love, starts from the inside out. This is what gives you the courage to go for the things you want, gives you the energy to live your own life. But it all starts from within and the way you think about yourself, the way you speak to yourself about your body, your personality, your attributes, your worth.

self worthStop rating yourself based on what other people look like, stop rejecting yourself or tolerating negativity into your life, and start embracing self-love, accept yourself, allow for your confidence to grow, and you’ll see how your life is going to change.

Your worth is found in you being you. Everyday ask yourself, did I love myself and those around me? If the answer is yes, then that’s all you need.

Love yourself today and always. Love Life. Live life. To the fullest.

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Have an amazing day my beauties.

 

 

How to become more Confident.

Having low self-esteem and self-confidence makes it impossible to be yourself. I remember a few years back how one of my main wishes was to gain my confidence back because I was losing sense of who I was.

As I mentioned on my first post WHO AM I, I shared how not long ago I went through a rough break up that left me in a dark place. This relationship was all I cared about, I invested all of my energy into it and forgot who I was in the process. So the moment it ended I was completely lost. I felt like I didn’t know what I liked anymore, I had no purpose, I lost tons of friends because of it, I distanced myself from family, I had no desire to do anything, I was living day by day not knowing what I wanted from life.

Basically, I was in desperate need of gaining my confidence back. But how? I had no clue what to do. Some people may say, “Well, just be confident in yourself.” Yeah…. that’s easier said than done. There is no magical switch you can turn your confidence ON and OFF with. So that advice was not very helpful. At all.

At this point, I was starting a nutrition program with my sisters because I had gained a few pounds due to everything that I was going through. I am an extreme stress eater as you may have read on AVOID CRAVINGS. I was able to drop the pounds I needed to lose, and at the moment I felt like this helped me gain some confidence back, and although it did, it wasn’t what completely did it for me.

I remember I then went to this one event for the company I was doing the program with, and they spoke about something called Personal Development. This term was like a different language to me. Personal Development is positive things that you do/listen to/read/write/say on a daily basis that help you improve yourself. PD helps enhance the quality of your life. Now, I had listened to motivational videos before, but I never saw it as something to do on a daily basis to improve myself.

So, because I am a good student, and like I said I was in desperate need, I started doing my daily PD. Because if you don’t believe in yourself, then how can others believe in you? I listened to this book called The Secret and many others. Well, while reading these books, listening to the videos, I learned about different things that I can do to get my confidence back.

I will share briefly on here what these tips are, however, throughout the next few weeks, I want to go into more detail on each. Follow my blog so that you get the notification when I post about each tip. I will be concentrating on one tip per post, to help you really understand each one a bit more. I really hope you find something useful from this blog that helps you improve and maintain your own level of confidence.

I have also created a 30 Day Confidence Challenge that you could JOIN. It is completely FREE. Just contact me for more details.

Here they are:

  1. Set goals and Take action. Something I used to do all the time was come up with an idea or plan, but never do it. I would always over think it instead of acting on it. But actually getting it done helps you have that feeling of accomplishment and it boosts your confidence, even if it’s by a little bit.
  2. Face your fears. The way to develop confidence into something is by getting out of your comfort zone, facing your fears and doing it. Pushing through those self-limiting beliefs you have had since little. Doing things that scare you is where you’ll be able to build your confidence.
  3. Realize that not everything has to be perfect. Fear of failure can hold you back from doing what you want. You have to learn how to not let it be something that breaks you down, instead something you can grow from. This is important for the growth of your self-confidence and overall as a human being. 
  4. Get to know who you are. To build your confidence up, you have to get to know yourself better. When you know more about yourself and the things that you want out of life, you will have more confidence in what you do. Find your Me Time, whether that is reading a book, dancing to your favorite song, a long bath, working out, write. Find what you like to do, and do it for at least 30mins – an hour. Doing this will help you disconnect from the world for a few minutes, and will help you refocus and boost your mood.
  5. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Bringing yourself around people with a positive attitude and mindset will improve both your self-confidence and self-worth.
  6. Talk to yourself. Yes, I know. Fabely, are you crazy? Maybe a little, but this really does work. They are called Daily Affirmations. On a daily basis, stand in front of the mirror and say positive things to yourself. You may not believe it, but your body listens to what you say to it. Be kind to yourself.
  7. Change your mindset. Self confidence is a mindset that takes effort to maintain. It’s something that you need to master in order to change for the better. Believe in yourself in order to do it. Act the part.
  8. Crack a smile. Last but not least, smile. At everyone you see, at yourself. If there is one instant way to boost your confidence, it is by smiling.

This will of course take time. It may be an ongoing thing for your life. But get started now. Like I said, taking action is one of the things that will help you.

So I hope that you follow my blog and stick around each week to learn more about them, that you JOIN MY CHALLENGE, and actually start putting them into practice in your life. I will go into detail about each one, so that you implement one each week and see how it can help you improve yourself. Look at it as a weekly to do.

As this quote says, “When eating an elephant take one bite at a time.” If you have patience and perseverance, you are only steps away from a more confident you.

I will be doing this with you too. Let your girls know about this post. Let’s continue to build ourselves up, empower each other and become the beautiful Invincible Butterflies that we are.

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Until next time my cuties!

Fabely

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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking