What is your worth?

Sooooo, the other day I was listening to a Podcast where the main topic called my attention, so obviously I am going to share with you guys. It spoke about how we determine our self-worth based on other people’s bodies or lives.

I’m not sure how many times I have mentioned that the power of our thinking has a lot to do with the way we live our lives, because life is lived from the inside out. We create our own self-worth based on how we see and speak to ourselves.

Self reflection.jpgMost of the time we measure our worth based on other people’s looks or achievements. There are tons of fitness models out there, with different body types, workout plans and meal plans. But something we need to realize is that most of these people have gone through a specific process, customized to their goal and body, to get to where they are. Some of these people train specifically for this photo shoot that we see on Instagram. There’s an extensive process that they have to go through to get to this level. 

I mentioned on my last post, Be The Best Version of Yourself, how I used to look up to other fitness models as my Body Goal, but I have realized that you have to set achievable goals based on your current status. Yes! Definitely look up to those women as a motivation, but never as your goal. Am I making sense? Set realistic goals while still having a bigger picture in mind.

There is a lot of work that goes behind most of those pictures we see. We tend to buy into this lie because this has become something that we see on a daily basis, which makes us start thinking, “Wow, look how perfect their body is, how happy they must be”, etc. When in reality, these people don’t look like that ALL the time. Again, you have to do a lot to get there, and it also takes a lot to maintain it.

It’s not something that is impossible to achieve, but understand that everyone has their own process, their own journey.

When we look at those people we usually think that they must be super popular, that they deserve more things than we do, we give them more value than we give ourselves. We then think, “wow she doesn’t have cellulite like me, she doesn’t have love handles”. Listen, you don’t know if those pictures are photoshopped, which they probably are. Whatever you’re thinking when you see these people, you need to stop it.Love yourself. Worth Spectrum

For all we know, these people go through dehydration and extreme dieting to get there. Is that really what you want? The goal should always be to be healthy while achieving your goal, not to kill yourself for just a few extra pounds.

The way you look can’t change what your worth is. You should never allow it to. You can’t capture true beauty in just one picture anyways, so stop feeling bad about yourself. They probably took thousands of pictures to get that one perfect one, lol I speak from experience.

You see on someone’s Instagram what they want you to see.

Limit the amount of time you spend looking through social media. Stop comparing yourself. Again, use them as a motivation but always having yourself as your role model, becoming your best self. Concentrate on your own journey, your progress, the things that you are overcoming and the person you are now becoming.

Dont Doubt your worthYour value lies in being who you are. We are each unique, you can’t deny the fact that you were created with a purpose. You were created to be who you are and what you are.

So stop trying to be like those other people. You just have to love yourself and you are the one who determines your worth. Stop thinking that you have to look a certain way to be happy, that you need a specific job to be successful or respected.

What stays in your life is what you tolerate and what you celebrate. Meaning, if you celebrate you, and your body, versus hating it and comparing it to others, then that’s what you’ll continue to get.

What do you celebrate about yourself? Even if it’s the smallest thing. If you can’t find one thing, then you need to make major changes. Make a list if you need to.

Start appreciating and celebrating your body for how it is, what it does for you.

Don’t tolerate any negative thinking or things into your life. The more you tolerate these things, the more they will be in your life.

Confidence, self-worth, self-love, starts from the inside out. This is what gives you the courage to go for the things you want, gives you the energy to live your own life. But it all starts from within and the way you think about yourself, the way you speak to yourself about your body, your personality, your attributes, your worth.

self worthStop rating yourself based on what other people look like, stop rejecting yourself or tolerating negativity into your life, and start embracing self-love, accept yourself, allow for your confidence to grow, and you’ll see how your life is going to change.

Your worth is found in you being you. Everyday ask yourself, did I love myself and those around me? If the answer is yes, then that’s all you need.

Love yourself today and always. Love Life. Live life. To the fullest.

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Have an amazing day my beauties.



Ok. So, who am I?

Aloha! My name is Fabely and I want to welcome you to my New Blog! I am excited and nervous about starting this new project, but they say “if your goals don’t scare you you’re not aiming high enough”, right? So here we are. I have had my own website for quite a while now, dedicated to health and fitness, but deciding to start a blog and share more about who I am, took some manning up to do. But I DID IT! I have decided to share with you a bit more about myself, about health & fitness, about my daily life and any obstacles or victories I grow through. But first I want to thank you for taking the time to read about my little shenanigans.

Now, most of you may already know a little about me, through either a social media platform or by what you have read on this website, but if not, then I shall introduce myself. As you may already know, my name is Fabely and I am Dominican. I am currently 27 years old. Born in NY but grew up in the Dominican Republic. I love that I was able to experience growing up in a different country because it helps me appreciate other cultures even more. I am currently living in Florida and so far so good. As you continue to read my post, you will see that I am very family oriented.

I am a Wellness Coach, however I wasn’t always into fitness. To be honest, I disliked anything that had to do with workouts or eating healthy. I wasn’t considered overweight, but I did have a few extra pounds on me. Until a few years ago, when I went through a nasty breakup and put on even more weight (I stress eat). I felt extremely insecure and lost any type of confidence I had in myself. It hurt. So I knew I had to do something about it. I started a nutrition program with my sisters, who have always liked fitness things, and was able to drop 30lbs within 2-3 months. I loved how I was feeling. I fell in love with health and fitness so much that I decided to help others regain their confidence and gain self control in their lives, knowing that they have the ability to change their body and how they feel.

I also started listening to a lot of Personal Development, which is something that completely changed my life. It transformed the way that I see things and how I react to them. Take a look at this book, which was actually the first book I read in this journey.

The Secret

I will keep this blog as real as it can get. I am not always open about my personal things, but here I want to share any knowledge I may have that can help someone become their better self. I want to make sure that I can help you get in the right state of mind so that your body can follow the direction that you want to go in life, and so that it follows with confidence. I will share the good, the bad, and even the silly times that I have. If I can help at least one person by sharing about my life, then I want to continue sharing.

Welcome to my life,