It’s not Mondays that suck, its your life.

I used to be the type of person to wake up and immediately look at my phone and scroll through Instagram. Until one day I saw this post that said, “It’s not Mondays that suck, its your life.” Not because I hate Monday’s, but because I realized how what I was currently doing with my time was affecting my life. So ever since then, it has become a ritual for me to start my morning with Personal Development before anything else. The reason why I do that is because it now helps me start my day on a positive note, which sets me off to have a great day, no matter what happens that day. So whether that is listening to a video, reading, completing one of my Bible Plans, or simply having a conversation with God, I make sure to start my day that way.

Your day goes however you want it to go. If you start your day in a bad note, and decide that it will be a bad day, then guess what??? it will be a bad day. But if you start on a good note, it doesn’t matter what happens to you, you will react to things differently, and you will start noticing how you don’t let those things ruin your day anymore. You start noticing how your days change, how you start having less and less problems, because you are in a less moody state.

LoveLifeI always encourage self growth, which I think is obvious as you look at my page and read a few of my posts. I encourage everyone to follow their heart, because you never know the wonderful places it can lead you to. So I do a lot of Personal Development. This is something everyone should be doing first thing when you start your day.

Well, today I heard a really great video that had an amazing group of speakers put together into one. It starts with a great message from a book called “The Complete Conversations with God” by Neale Donald Walsch. Which is a great recommendation if you are spiritual/religious. You will also hear different quotes from big names in the sports and entertainment field. I don’t think it is a coincidence that so many successful people have the same ideas and principles when it comes to success. They all share similar ideas to help you succeed, that you can find in bible scriptures with a twist of modern language.

I think it is important for us, specially people my generation or younger, to seek guidance from people who are already at the level you want to be at. To listen to those who have been through life because they already know what works and what doesn’t. They have already gone through mistakes that we can learn from. And although you will still make mistakes, even the same ones, you can at least skim some of these by just listening to those that are where you want to be.

You have to do what most people don’t want to do, what they don’t have the passion to do. This is the only way success will come to you. The things that take the most time, that are the hardest, are the things that will make you the most successful version of yourself.

Like the video says, you are your own rule maker. You set the guidelines. You decide how well you have done, how well you are doing, how well you will do. For you are the one who decides who and what you really are and who you want to be.

So look at what successful people are already doing, listen to what they have to say, and adjust whatever you need to adjust based on your life, so that we can all be there too. See you at the top!

Here is that video I was referring to. Hope you listen to it and that it helps.

One of the Most Motivational Videos You’ll Ever See

If you have any other video or book suggestions, please share them in the comments. I am looking forward to adding a ton my list.

 

Grow from your Failures.

Hello beauties,

Already Week 4 /Tip 3 of our beautiful journey. WOW! Time flies. I hope that you have been following the last few posts and getting amazing tips on How to Become More Confident, Setting Goals, and Facing your fears. Like I explained there, I will be touching on one tip per post, hoping that you can get as much information possible to help you in this journey.

This week I will be talking about Failure. Failure is something that mostly everyone is afraid of because of the things that can come with it. It can bring humiliation, depression, lack of confidence, and others. That is why learning how to use failure as a thing to grow from is very important to help your self-esteem.

First of all, you have to realize that failure won’t kill you, the fear of it can. Why? Because when you have a fear of failure, you hold yourself back from going for what you want. It could cause you to bring yourself down.

ConfidentAs humans, when we make mistakes, we often get upset, missing the benefit of failing. Yes, benefit. The benefit of getting over your ego and coming back stronger, with an even smarter approach. Our ego is our own worst enemy. The minute something goes wrong, our defense mechanism kicks in, tempting us to do what we know best, which is avoid the situation. You then turn to denial, chasing your losses, and ruin your ability to adapt.

The idea is for you to stop seeing failure as the thing that makes your knees shake and to start seeing it as a learning experience, something useful and necessary for your growth. Lessons to help you find different ways so succeed in what you want.

So, always ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation?

I have failed many times in life, but I haven’t let that stop me. Each time I get back up stronger and try one more time. I have mentioned in previous blogs the story of how I have had to rebuild my organizations a few times because of small mistakes made. Read more on it on THIS BLOG.

WalkYou have to face your fears. This is the only way that you will be able to discover the fact that failure or being wrong won’t kill you. The sky will not fall, your world will not be ruined. That’s just what people who haven’t faced their fears think. 

But this is the mentality that you need to have, being able to live with failure and learn from it. Because this is what will teach you how to be stronger, how to overcome each obstacle, how to learn different strategies to succeed, etc.

Yes, you become stronger when you learn from these failures. When you fail at something, you start getting accustomed to it and you start to lose the fear. You’ll start to handle things differently, things that you weren’t able to handle before.

You also realize that you at least took a chance at something, even if you failed at it. You didn’t just sit there doing nothing, which takes a lot of courage and determination. You increase your chances of succeeding at something. It brings you a step closer to winning.

Sometimes we think that we can just learn from other’s mistakes, but this is not always the case. You have to experience failure on your own to learn a lesson and to gain experience that maybe no-one else can relate to.

ConfidenceWe are not built to be perfect, we make mistakes. You are your our own worst critic, therefore you have to also learn to forgive yourself. Use every opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Be gentle to yourself.

Practice failing, expose yourself to new things, different ideas and try different approaches where there is lots to learn.

Also remember that people aren’t paying attention to what you do wrong or when you fail. They have their own problems they are dealing with.

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre

Until next time my cuties!

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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking