What is your worth?

Sooooo, the other day I was listening to a Podcast where the main topic called my attention, so obviously I am going to share with you guys. It spoke about how we determine our self-worth based on other people’s bodies or lives.

I’m not sure how many times I have mentioned that the power of our thinking has a lot to do with the way we live our lives, because life is lived from the inside out. We create our own self-worth based on how we see and speak to ourselves.

Self reflection.jpgMost of the time we measure our worth based on other people’s looks or achievements. There are tons of fitness models out there, with different body types, workout plans and meal plans. But something we need to realize is that most of these people have gone through a specific process, customized to their goal and body, to get to where they are. Some of these people train specifically for this photo shoot that we see on Instagram. There’s an extensive process that they have to go through to get to this level. 

I mentioned on my last post, Be The Best Version of Yourself, how I used to look up to other fitness models as my Body Goal, but I have realized that you have to set achievable goals based on your current status. Yes! Definitely look up to those women as a motivation, but never as your goal. Am I making sense? Set realistic goals while still having a bigger picture in mind.

There is a lot of work that goes behind most of those pictures we see. We tend to buy into this lie because this has become something that we see on a daily basis, which makes us start thinking, “Wow, look how perfect their body is, how happy they must be”, etc. When in reality, these people don’t look like that ALL the time. Again, you have to do a lot to get there, and it also takes a lot to maintain it.

It’s not something that is impossible to achieve, but understand that everyone has their own process, their own journey.

When we look at those people we usually think that they must be super popular, that they deserve more things than we do, we give them more value than we give ourselves. We then think, “wow she doesn’t have cellulite like me, she doesn’t have love handles”. Listen, you don’t know if those pictures are photoshopped, which they probably are. Whatever you’re thinking when you see these people, you need to stop it.Love yourself. Worth Spectrum

For all we know, these people go through dehydration and extreme dieting to get there. Is that really what you want? The goal should always be to be healthy while achieving your goal, not to kill yourself for just a few extra pounds.

The way you look can’t change what your worth is. You should never allow it to. You can’t capture true beauty in just one picture anyways, so stop feeling bad about yourself. They probably took thousands of pictures to get that one perfect one, lol I speak from experience.

You see on someone’s Instagram what they want you to see.

Limit the amount of time you spend looking through social media. Stop comparing yourself. Again, use them as a motivation but always having yourself as your role model, becoming your best self. Concentrate on your own journey, your progress, the things that you are overcoming and the person you are now becoming.

Dont Doubt your worthYour value lies in being who you are. We are each unique, you can’t deny the fact that you were created with a purpose. You were created to be who you are and what you are.

So stop trying to be like those other people. You just have to love yourself and you are the one who determines your worth. Stop thinking that you have to look a certain way to be happy, that you need a specific job to be successful or respected.

What stays in your life is what you tolerate and what you celebrate. Meaning, if you celebrate you, and your body, versus hating it and comparing it to others, then that’s what you’ll continue to get.

What do you celebrate about yourself? Even if it’s the smallest thing. If you can’t find one thing, then you need to make major changes. Make a list if you need to.

Start appreciating and celebrating your body for how it is, what it does for you.

Don’t tolerate any negative thinking or things into your life. The more you tolerate these things, the more they will be in your life.

Confidence, self-worth, self-love, starts from the inside out. This is what gives you the courage to go for the things you want, gives you the energy to live your own life. But it all starts from within and the way you think about yourself, the way you speak to yourself about your body, your personality, your attributes, your worth.

self worthStop rating yourself based on what other people look like, stop rejecting yourself or tolerating negativity into your life, and start embracing self-love, accept yourself, allow for your confidence to grow, and you’ll see how your life is going to change.

Your worth is found in you being you. Everyday ask yourself, did I love myself and those around me? If the answer is yes, then that’s all you need.

Love yourself today and always. Love Life. Live life. To the fullest.

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Have an amazing day my beauties.

 

 

Smile… it is contagious!

OMG guys!!! It is the last week of our How To Become more Confident journey, although this doesn’t mean I’ll stop posting about it 😉 But I really do hope that a lot of you have been able to follow the whole journey and have become the Confident Woman/Man that you were born to be.

Ok. So let’s get on with our last tip, very short and straight to the point, Smile! Yes, SMILE 🙂 and BIG!!

Don’t tell me those pictures didn’t just make you all fuzzy inside!! Too much cuteness. But that is the power of a smile. Sometimes we underestimate its power, but if there is one instant way to boost your confidence, it is by cracking a smile. There is a reason why God gave you those pearly whites. This will make you appear both confident and composed.

LaughJust by showing a small smile you can help any feelings of stress, so you immediately become happier and relaxed. And to triple that confidence, why don’t you go ahead and smile at that cute guy or girl you see on your morning commute, maybe it’ll even land you a date.

Trust me. It works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and you will too. It will also help you be kinder to others, which causes a chain reaction. Not a bad thing, right? Specially since our world needs that right now!!

Being kind to others and generous with yourself, your time and what you have, is a big way to improve your self-image. You start to feel good about yourself anytime you do an act of kindness.

Be KindWhen you smile at another person, a warm and genuine smile, you are letting them know that they are pleasant, likeable, safe, secure. A smile is so powerful that it can transform a person with low self-confidence.

So what are you waiting for? Get out there and start smiling at people. Every morning when you are on your way to work, to school, when you leave to go home, when you’re ordering something at the drive through window, or the front desk cashier, just smile at everyone, for NO reason. Ask them how their day is/was, how they are doing. You will see you how you will light up a smile in them too. You will feel happy and they will feel happy.

SMILE! 🙂

Until next time my cuties!

Be Happy

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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

What a powerful thing to say or even think about. You mean to tell me that if I change the way I think about something, it will change it? That if I change my mindset, it can potentially change my whole life? YESSSS, my friend. It can.

Confident-MindsetListen, even the greatest leaders in the world have lack of self-confidence at certain points in their lives. Self-confidence is not a quality that you have, and that’s it, it stays forever. Self-confidence is a type of mindset that takes a lot of effort to maintain, specially when things get tough.

Some of the things that you can try to help you work on this mindset are:

behappy.jpgStop focusing on the negative and only allow positive energy in your life. If you think positive, positive things will come to you. Avoid the negative self-talk that can make you feel less confident. Smile, be happy and Surround yourself with positive people. This will help you feel better and those around you.

Learn how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Learn how to be aware of your self talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and the things that you are doing. If you are doing something and suddenly a negative thought pops in your head, KILL IT, then replace it with a positive one. This goes hand in hand with last week’s post about Daily Affirmations.

Take time to be thankful and grateful for the things in your life. Keeping a journal to write these down is also extremely helpful. It will help you develop a confident and peaceful state of mind. 

BeConfidentAct on it. Its one thing to think positively, but it is another when you actually put those thoughts into action. Have you heard of something like, “fake it ’til you make it”? This is what they mean by it. You have to act as if you have already achieved what you so deeply desire. So if what you really want is to be confident, then act like a confident person. Present yourself in a way that tell people you are ready to master any situation. If you look confident and act like it, not only will you feel like you’re in control, but people will have more confidence in you as well.

Dress the part. When you look better, you feel better. If you wear something that looks good and makes you feel good, it will automatically increase your self-esteem. Make sure to also speak with confidence. Fix your posture, stand tall and straight. This is such a simple thing, but it makes a huge difference in how people see you.

SmilePractice being self-confident on a daily basis and you’ll see how soon it will become second nature. Inaction only brings doubt and fear, while action brings confidence and courage.

You are what you think and do, so if you change your thoughts and actions to positive ones, you will become more positive. Put the right energy into your actions.

Changing your mindset is not easy, but it is one of the most powerful things you can do. First you need to learn to recognize your negative mindset and from there you will be empowered to make the necessary changes to start seeking out positive. If you do this, it can turn your entire life around.

Until next time my cuties!

Strong

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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

How can Daily Affirmations help you on your everyday life?

Ok. So when I added this tip on my How To Become More Confident post, I knew some people were going to think it was odd. But trust me, it is as important as all the others.

positive-daily-affirmations.jpgI am talking about talking to yourself. This may sound crazy, but it works. No, not like you’re crazy. You’ll be doing what some people call, Daily Affirmations. Positive self talk can be a way of getting you through tough times.

When I first started, I did feel a bit weird. But the more I kept going, the more I was believing what I was saying to myself and the more confident I was feeling.

The way you talk to yourself influences the way you feel about yourself, and even the way you treat others. When you tell yourself I know what I need to do to … , you immediately change your mindset from seeing things as a challenge rather than a problem. Making you a lot more confident in what you are doing.

Self TalkHow to:

Take a few deep breaths. Stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself in the eyes. Smile if it feels natural. Say your affirmations. Slowly and clearly. Repeat them a few times, focusing on the meaning of each word. Take another deep breath allowing your body to absorb the positive feeling.

Some examples may include:

“I am ready, happy and willing to receive money.”

“I am attracting my soulmate and my life is full of love and joy.”

“I am overflowing with love, joy and positive energy.”

“I can do anything.”

“I am the healthiest I have ever been.”

“I am confident, capable, and achieving everything I set my mind to.”

“I am attracting a better, happier life every day.”

These affirmations are your new best friends, they are food for your soul. You can also write them down and stick them all over your house, to remind you of the amazing person you are. Make sure you also do them first thing in the morning. Just like a good breakfast is fuel to start the great day, positive affirmations are the daily fuel for your mind and spirit.

positive-affirmation_17-1.pngDaily affirmations will change the way you think about yourself and everything around you. It helps you boost your mood, helps perform better in things, it makes you aware of your thoughts, to know what you really want in life, helps reconnect with your feelings and enhance your perspective on the things in life.

Adding to talking to yourself, take care of yourself. Put on your favorite fragrance, groom yourself, take a nice long shower/bath, shave, nice makeup and dress nicely. You’ll not only smell delicious and look great, but it will for sure make you feel confident. You will feel like you are ready to tackle the world. And when you do it, tell yourself how amazing you look and feel.

So, now you know. Start being your own cheerleader, especially during times of stress or struggle. You’ll be less likely to focus on your failures when you do, and are perhaps more likely to learn from your mistakes. You’ll also have higher expectations for yourself.

Until next time my cuties!

Confident

By the way, don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

 

Do you know yourself?

Who are you? What do you like to do? What makes you smile? What gets you mad? What is your purpose in life?

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If you know the answer to these questions, then you’re on the right track.

Getting to know who you are, the things you like and don’t like to do, is one of the main things you need when you are looking to Become more Confident. When you know yourself better and what you want to get out of life, you build and find more confidence to get what you want.

You’ll need to explore to find what you like, face some fears, fail at it and understand that, that’s ok. Figure out what gets you excited by trying a bunch of different things out.

Most difficult thing to know yourself

You need to know yourself and what it is that YOU want out of your life, not what other people say that you want or need. Once you do, what they say about you or to you will have less of an impact on you. You will learn to trust your own opinion because of all the experiences you will have.

Know YourselfKnowing yourself is not just knowing what your favorite color is, or your favorite subject in school. It is way beyond that. It is understanding you, the human being, on deeper levels than just the surface. Trying to find this out will bring you face to face with your insecurities and self doubts, so its something you need to be willing to do.

But knowing yourself will mean that you respect your values, beliefs, personality, habits, relationships, your body. You will understand your strengths, weaknesses, passions, fears, dreams, your limitations, etc. You will know your true purpose in life, or you will be really darn close to it.

How can you do that?

  • Get to know your personality, inside and out. What are you like alone? Around friends? Around strangers? How do you react to certain things? and why?
  • Get to know your core values, the principles you hold near and dear to your heart. The things you can’t compromise. Honesty, integrity, security, flexibility, wisdom, loyalty?
  • Get to know your body. How well do you know your body, your breathing, your limits, abilities?
  • Get to know your dreams and hopes. They help you build the life you are proud of living. Be very specific. Take them serious and work at them.
  • Get to know your likes and dislikes. If you keep doing things you dislike and less of what you like, you are giving up part of yourself.

know-yourselfOnce you know yourself more, take care of yourself. Mind, body and soul. Trust me, you’re not being selfish. How can you be of use to others if you are not taking care of yourself first? Start your me time, your happy hour, the thing that helps you disconnect from all of your problems and just enjoy yourself. This could be writing in your journal, cranking up your favorite type of music, working out, reading, meditate, get enough sleep, diet, taking yourself on a date, buy yourself a Gift, etc.

Find what you like to do and devote yourself at least 30 mins to an hour a day. Embrace your alone time. I make sure to add it into my Planner to make sure I never miss it. The richer your alone time is, the richer your relationships with others will be. Doing this will help you disconnect from the world for a few minutes, and will help you refocus and boost your mood.

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If you like to Journal things, start listening to your thoughts, start writing them down, your experiences, analyze why you have these thoughts, good or bad. Dig deep within yourself.

Or workout. I am sure we all know this by now, exercise is good for you. Yes, working out can actually improve your confidence. Not only is it good for your body, but also for the mind. This will help you release some stress, get your mind off things, and relax. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself. All you have to do, if you don’t usually workout, is start by taking a small walk, small workouts at home, the gym. Start the habit.

Find Yourself

Be mindful of the things you think about, feel, or say. If you catch yourself focused on anything negative, acknowledge it and shift it to something positive. And don’t you dare compare yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. Look up to others but never bring yourself down. The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the old you to see how much you have improved.

Don’t forget that you have to fall in love with yourself first. No one will ever complete you the way you complete yourself. Learn to love who you are, flaws and all, embrace all of them. Others can sense when you have love for yourself. The most beautiful things will start to happen when you begin to unfold into the person that you were meant to be from the beginning.

Until next time my cuties!

Smile

By the way, don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

 

Grow from your Failures.

Hello beauties,

Already Week 4 /Tip 3 of our beautiful journey. WOW! Time flies. I hope that you have been following the last few posts and getting amazing tips on How to Become More Confident, Setting Goals, and Facing your fears. Like I explained there, I will be touching on one tip per post, hoping that you can get as much information possible to help you in this journey.

This week I will be talking about Failure. Failure is something that mostly everyone is afraid of because of the things that can come with it. It can bring humiliation, depression, lack of confidence, and others. That is why learning how to use failure as a thing to grow from is very important to help your self-esteem.

First of all, you have to realize that failure won’t kill you, the fear of it can. Why? Because when you have a fear of failure, you hold yourself back from going for what you want. It could cause you to bring yourself down.

ConfidentAs humans, when we make mistakes, we often get upset, missing the benefit of failing. Yes, benefit. The benefit of getting over your ego and coming back stronger, with an even smarter approach. Our ego is our own worst enemy. The minute something goes wrong, our defense mechanism kicks in, tempting us to do what we know best, which is avoid the situation. You then turn to denial, chasing your losses, and ruin your ability to adapt.

The idea is for you to stop seeing failure as the thing that makes your knees shake and to start seeing it as a learning experience, something useful and necessary for your growth. Lessons to help you find different ways so succeed in what you want.

So, always ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation?

I have failed many times in life, but I haven’t let that stop me. Each time I get back up stronger and try one more time. I have mentioned in previous blogs the story of how I have had to rebuild my organizations a few times because of small mistakes made. Read more on it on THIS BLOG.

WalkYou have to face your fears. This is the only way that you will be able to discover the fact that failure or being wrong won’t kill you. The sky will not fall, your world will not be ruined. That’s just what people who haven’t faced their fears think. 

But this is the mentality that you need to have, being able to live with failure and learn from it. Because this is what will teach you how to be stronger, how to overcome each obstacle, how to learn different strategies to succeed, etc.

Yes, you become stronger when you learn from these failures. When you fail at something, you start getting accustomed to it and you start to lose the fear. You’ll start to handle things differently, things that you weren’t able to handle before.

You also realize that you at least took a chance at something, even if you failed at it. You didn’t just sit there doing nothing, which takes a lot of courage and determination. You increase your chances of succeeding at something. It brings you a step closer to winning.

Sometimes we think that we can just learn from other’s mistakes, but this is not always the case. You have to experience failure on your own to learn a lesson and to gain experience that maybe no-one else can relate to.

ConfidenceWe are not built to be perfect, we make mistakes. You are your our own worst critic, therefore you have to also learn to forgive yourself. Use every opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Be gentle to yourself.

Practice failing, expose yourself to new things, different ideas and try different approaches where there is lots to learn.

Also remember that people aren’t paying attention to what you do wrong or when you fail. They have their own problems they are dealing with.

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre

Until next time my cuties!

By the way, don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking

Get out of your comfort bubble. Face your fears.

Hello beautiful/handsome,

We are now on week 2 of our How To Be Confident journey and I couldn’t be more excited. This week I will be helping you Face your fears and get out of your comfort zone in order to continue to grow through things.

You are not alone. Millions of people may have similar fears, if not the same exact one. Bringing yourself down won’t help you overcome it. Acknowledging that fear is a normal emotion can help you find the strength you need.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

This quote explains perfectly what today’s topic is about. You can do a thousand different things to grow your confidence, but if you are not facing your fears and stepping out of your comfort bubble, you won’t get the results you want.

Everyone is afraid of something. I am, you are, we all are. The difference between you and the successful people you admire is that they are willing to do whatever it takes to work through it. It sounds easier to ignore the things we fear and hope that they just go away. But this rarely is the case. If you don’t face them, they can end up controlling you. You have to gradually face the situation, until you get to the point where you start to wonder why you weren’t doing it sooner.

2017-08-10 23.05.27I remember I used to be terrified of public speaking. I would start shaking and sweating at just the thought of doing it, so imagine when I actually had to do it. I was that student in Speech class that would go last at all times because I was just too terrified. But one time I decided that enough was enough, I couldn’t continue to allow this fear stop me from moving to the next level. I had to face that fear if I wanted to grow as a leader. So I did. I started to volunteer to do small presentation parts during my company’s events, until I was able to get bigger parts.

Nowadays I have spoken in front of groups of over 500 people. Does it still scare me at times? Yes, of course. This doesn’t magically disappear. But it doesn’t stop me from doing it, and the more I do it, the easier it gets to speak in front of large groups.

What you feel after you face one of your fears is far more amazing than what you feel when you are trying to hold back. You feel free, accomplished, strong, like you own the world, not to sound corny. But it definitely is a great feeling, and that is why it helps boost your confidence. You realize that you were able to conquer something that was holding you back and that nothing else can stop you.

Shift your mindset from being scared to being curious. When you are scared you close yourself up. You create barriers between you and that thing, you start creating excuses. But if you switch your mentality to being curious about it, it changes your whole perspective. It’s like a whole new world opening up. You start to become open to new things and enthusiastic. Being enthusiastic about something will help you have fun with it, making you forget about the fear.

Also, remember that fear is often based on our interpretation of things. We, as humans, like to look for patterns, finding mostly negative patterns that come from past experiences, misjudged situations, even miscommunication. Don’t take your thoughts too serious, because a lot of the times they are pretty inaccurate.

Face your fearYou have to push through self-limiting beliefs in order to get out of your comfort zone. As kids you have the biggest dreams to conquer the world, but as you grow up, your desires to dream big get squashed. The people surrounding you start to throw their own beliefs on you, about what they think you should or should not do, creating fake limitations in your head. But pushing through those things and creating your own beliefs, will help you get out of that comfort zone.

This is the time to take good risks. The more risks you take, the bigger your comfort zone continues to get. Doing something small every day can lead you to bigger accomplishments. You will grow through it and will feel invincible.

Expose yourself to new situations, things you wouldn’t normally do. Get uncomfortable. Once you do this and start to grow this confidence in yourself, you will be amazed of what you can accomplish.

Follow these few steps next time you feel scared to do something:

  • Journal your fear. Reflect on it. Once you write it down, it can lose its power over you.
  • Lean into your fear. One step at a time. Action builds courage.
  • Relax your body.
  • Journal your past success. This will motivate you and you’ll be amazed at your list.
  • Stop thinking about the past. Most of the times our fears come from pain felt in the past.
  • Laugh at it.
  • Live on abundance. Stop paying attention to the negative things and celebrate life.
  • Believe in yourself. You deserve the best no matter what.
  • Accept failure as part of life. Get through it and get over it.
  • View life as an adventure.

What is your current biggest fear?

Until next time my cuties!

By the way, don’t forget to Join My Mailing List to continue getting updates on the How To Become More Confident series, to get your FREE PDF on a few extra Tips, and receive any updates on more free goodies and new products coming. Don’t forget to ask about my challenges, if you are looking to lose weight, gain muscle, join the Booty Challenge or the Confidence Challenge, whatever goal you have, just ask. 

Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
The Secret
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking