Who are you? What do you like to do? What makes you smile? What gets you mad? What is your purpose in life?
If you know the answer to these questions, then you’re on the right track.
Getting to know who you are, the things you like and don’t like to do, is one of the main things you need when you are looking to Become more Confident. When you know yourself better and what you want to get out of life, you build and find more confidence to get what you want.
You need to know yourself and what it is that YOU want out of your life, not what other people say that you want or need. Once you do, what they say about you or to you will have less of an impact on you. You will learn to trust your own opinion because of all the experiences you will have.
Knowing yourself is not just knowing what your favorite color is, or your favorite subject in school. It is way beyond that. It is understanding you, the human being, on deeper levels than just the surface. Trying to find this out will bring you face to face with your insecurities and self doubts, so its something you need to be willing to do.
But knowing yourself will mean that you respect your values, beliefs, personality, habits, relationships, your body. You will understand your strengths, weaknesses, passions, fears, dreams, your limitations, etc. You will know your true purpose in life, or you will be really darn close to it.
How can you do that?
- Get to know your personality, inside and out. What are you like alone? Around friends? Around strangers? How do you react to certain things? and why?
- Get to know your core values, the principles you hold near and dear to your heart. The things you can’t compromise. Honesty, integrity, security, flexibility, wisdom, loyalty?
- Get to know your body. How well do you know your body, your breathing, your limits, abilities?
- Get to know your dreams and hopes. They help you build the life you are proud of living. Be very specific. Take them serious and work at them.
- Get to know your likes and dislikes. If you keep doing things you dislike and less of what you like, you are giving up part of yourself.
Once you know yourself more, take care of yourself. Mind, body and soul. Trust me, you’re not being selfish. How can you be of use to others if you are not taking care of yourself first? Start your me time, your happy hour, the thing that helps you disconnect from all of your problems and just enjoy yourself. This could be writing in your journal, cranking up your favorite type of music, working out, reading, meditate, get enough sleep, diet, taking yourself on a date, buy yourself a Gift, etc.
Find what you like to do and devote yourself at least 30 mins to an hour a day. Embrace your alone time. I make sure to add it into my Planner to make sure I never miss it. The richer your alone time is, the richer your relationships with others will be. Doing this will help you disconnect from the world for a few minutes, and will help you refocus and boost your mood.
If you like to Journal things, start listening to your thoughts, start writing them down, your experiences, analyze why you have these thoughts, good or bad. Dig deep within yourself.
Or workout. I am sure we all know this by now, exercise is good for you. Yes, working out can actually improve your confidence. Not only is it good for your body, but also for the mind. This will help you release some stress, get your mind off things, and relax. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself. All you have to do, if you don’t usually workout, is start by taking a small walk, small workouts at home, the gym. Start the habit.
Be mindful of the things you think about, feel, or say. If you catch yourself focused on anything negative, acknowledge it and shift it to something positive. And don’t you dare compare yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. Look up to others but never bring yourself down. The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the old you to see how much you have improved.
Don’t forget that you have to fall in love with yourself first. No one will ever complete you the way you complete yourself. Learn to love who you are, flaws and all, embrace all of them. Others can sense when you have love for yourself. The most beautiful things will start to happen when you begin to unfold into the person that you were meant to be from the beginning.
Until next time my cuties!
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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking