Already Week 4 /Tip 3 of our beautiful journey. WOW! Time flies. I hope that you have been following the last few posts and getting amazing tips on How to Become More Confident, Setting Goals, and Facing your fears. Like I explained there, I will be touching on one tip per post, hoping that you can get as much information possible to help you in this journey.
This week I will be talking about Failure. Failure is something that mostly everyone is afraid of because of the things that can come with it. It can bring humiliation, depression, lack of confidence, and others. That is why learning how to use failure as a thing to grow from is very important to help your self-esteem.
First of all, you have to realize that failure won’t kill you, the fear of it can. Why? Because when you have a fear of failure, you hold yourself back from going for what you want. It could cause you to bring yourself down.
As humans, when we make mistakes, we often get upset, missing the benefit of failing. Yes, benefit. The benefit of getting over your ego and coming back stronger, with an even smarter approach. Our ego is our own worst enemy. The minute something goes wrong, our defense mechanism kicks in, tempting us to do what we know best, which is avoid the situation. You then turn to denial, chasing your losses, and ruin your ability to adapt.
The idea is for you to stop seeing failure as the thing that makes your knees shake and to start seeing it as a learning experience, something useful and necessary for your growth. Lessons to help you find different ways so succeed in what you want.
So, always ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation?
I have failed many times in life, but I haven’t let that stop me. Each time I get back up stronger and try one more time. I have mentioned in previous blogs the story of how I have had to rebuild my organizations a few times because of small mistakes made. Read more on it on THIS BLOG.
You have to face your fears. This is the only way that you will be able to discover the fact that failure or being wrong won’t kill you. The sky will not fall, your world will not be ruined. That’s just what people who haven’t faced their fears think.
But this is the mentality that you need to have, being able to live with failure and learn from it. Because this is what will teach you how to be stronger, how to overcome each obstacle, how to learn different strategies to succeed, etc.
Yes, you become stronger when you learn from these failures. When you fail at something, you start getting accustomed to it and you start to lose the fear. You’ll start to handle things differently, things that you weren’t able to handle before.
You also realize that you at least took a chance at something, even if you failed at it. You didn’t just sit there doing nothing, which takes a lot of courage and determination. You increase your chances of succeeding at something. It brings you a step closer to winning.
Sometimes we think that we can just learn from other’s mistakes, but this is not always the case. You have to experience failure on your own to learn a lesson and to gain experience that maybe no-one else can relate to.
We are not built to be perfect, we make mistakes. You are your our own worst critic, therefore you have to also learn to forgive yourself. Use every opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Be gentle to yourself.
Practice failing, expose yourself to new things, different ideas and try different approaches where there is lots to learn.
Also remember that people aren’t paying attention to what you do wrong or when you fail. They have their own problems they are dealing with.
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre
Until next time my cuties!
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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking