We are now on week 2 of our How To Be Confident journey and I couldn’t be more excited. This week I will be helping you Face your fears and get out of your comfort zone in order to continue to grow through things.
You are not alone. Millions of people may have similar fears, if not the same exact one. Bringing yourself down won’t help you overcome it. Acknowledging that fear is a normal emotion can help you find the strength you need.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
This quote explains perfectly what today’s topic is about. You can do a thousand different things to grow your confidence, but if you are not facing your fears and stepping out of your comfort bubble, you won’t get the results you want.
Everyone is afraid of something. I am, you are, we all are. The difference between you and the successful people you admire is that they are willing to do whatever it takes to work through it. It sounds easier to ignore the things we fear and hope that they just go away. But this rarely is the case. If you don’t face them, they can end up controlling you. You have to gradually face the situation, until you get to the point where you start to wonder why you weren’t doing it sooner.
I remember I used to be terrified of public speaking. I would start shaking and sweating at just the thought of doing it, so imagine when I actually had to do it. I was that student in Speech class that would go last at all times because I was just too terrified. But one time I decided that enough was enough, I couldn’t continue to allow this fear stop me from moving to the next level. I had to face that fear if I wanted to grow as a leader. So I did. I started to volunteer to do small presentation parts during my company’s events, until I was able to get bigger parts.
Nowadays I have spoken in front of groups of over 500 people. Does it still scare me at times? Yes, of course. This doesn’t magically disappear. But it doesn’t stop me from doing it, and the more I do it, the easier it gets to speak in front of large groups.
What you feel after you face one of your fears is far more amazing than what you feel when you are trying to hold back. You feel free, accomplished, strong, like you own the world, not to sound corny. But it definitely is a great feeling, and that is why it helps boost your confidence. You realize that you were able to conquer something that was holding you back and that nothing else can stop you.
Shift your mindset from being scared to being curious. When you are scared you close yourself up. You create barriers between you and that thing, you start creating excuses. But if you switch your mentality to being curious about it, it changes your whole perspective. It’s like a whole new world opening up. You start to become open to new things and enthusiastic. Being enthusiastic about something will help you have fun with it, making you forget about the fear.
Also, remember that fear is often based on our interpretation of things. We, as humans, like to look for patterns, finding mostly negative patterns that come from past experiences, misjudged situations, even miscommunication. Don’t take your thoughts too serious, because a lot of the times they are pretty inaccurate.
You have to push through self-limiting beliefs in order to get out of your comfort zone. As kids you have the biggest dreams to conquer the world, but as you grow up, your desires to dream big get squashed. The people surrounding you start to throw their own beliefs on you, about what they think you should or should not do, creating fake limitations in your head. But pushing through those things and creating your own beliefs, will help you get out of that comfort zone.
This is the time to take good risks. The more risks you take, the bigger your comfort zone continues to get. Doing something small every day can lead you to bigger accomplishments. You will grow through it and will feel invincible.
Expose yourself to new situations, things you wouldn’t normally do. Get uncomfortable. Once you do this and start to grow this confidence in yourself, you will be amazed of what you can accomplish.
Follow these few steps next time you feel scared to do something:
- Journal your fear. Reflect on it. Once you write it down, it can lose its power over you.
- Lean into your fear. One step at a time. Action builds courage.
- Relax your body.
- Journal your past success. This will motivate you and you’ll be amazed at your list.
- Stop thinking about the past. Most of the times our fears come from pain felt in the past.
- Laugh at it.
- Live on abundance. Stop paying attention to the negative things and celebrate life.
- Believe in yourself. You deserve the best no matter what.
- Accept failure as part of life. Get through it and get over it.
- View life as an adventure.
What is your current biggest fear?
Until next time my cuties!
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Personal Development Book recommendations to help you grow your confidence:
Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
The Power of Positive Thinking